December 2nd, 2006

Let it snow. (Or not.)

I'm enjoying a beautiful midday hour at Victoria Station in downtown you-know-where. The air outside is cool but it's a spectacular, sunny day. They're saying this is the most pleasant Thanksgiving season they've seen in southern New England in years. We had some strong winds and heavy rain last night, but by this morning the weather was clear and lovely.

I'm flying back to Oregon on Tuesday, and my only concern is whether the weather in the Midwest will mess up my stopover in Minneapolis. If it's not actively stormy at the time of my connection, I guess I should be okay - presumably they know how to deal with snow there.

Went to services this morning at the local synagogue, Sons of Zion, which is about a ten-minute walk from here. I took a wrong turn on the way there and found myself taking the scenic route along the river and through the park - which wasn't a bad thing. Got there a few minutes late, but didn't miss much of the services. The folks there are warm and friendly - mostly in their 40s and 50s. It's a small congregation as you might expect - I was the ninth adult and the last to show up, so we didn't quite have a minyan, but we read the prayers and schmoozed over kiddush. They follow an egalitarian but traditional service, which I like, and recited the full traditional Birkat HaMazon (grace after meals) from the NCSY bencher. Everyone knew the words.

Now, back to the world of Christmas carols. Just a few minutes ago, the radio here in VS was playing "Let it snow, let it snow, let it snow." At the exact moment the song ended, the red new-message indicator on my e-mail popped on, and I discovered the following message from my Flickr account:
****** has invited you to be a member of
Let it snow, Let it snow, Let it snow!!!.

To find out more about this group and to accept or decline
this invitation, click here ....

Heh.

Whoa!

Dear friend on my f-list who just wrote a long self-hating post,

Please stop! You do not deserve to be hated by anybody. If you are having problems with your family, try to work it out.

Yes, it is true that you deserve to live! And it's also true that life puts us in situations (or we put ourselves in situations) where we have to do difficult things and make hard decisions. That's not because we were meant to suffer, but because we were meant to LIVE LIFE, and that necessarily means that we must suffer sometimes.

Don't troll yourself. If you feel you did somebody wrong (and that's hard for me to believe beause I know you're a beautiful, wonderful person - but you are human too), then forgive yourself first. I say forgive yourself first because you have to be okay with yourself in order to do whatever else may be required. You know, the oxygen mask on the airplane thing ...

Get some rest (something tells me you've been working too hard) and a good meal, and then take another look at life. I don't know what your specific situation is and I won't presume to give you advice on it. But I do know that it's sad when adult family members don't get along; and I know that family conflicts can heal, even if it takes time.

PS - Even a limbo stick needs to have a little fun (NSFW) every now and then.